Men nowadays-Modern or still living in the 15th century?

       So what do you think about men nowadays? Are they modern or not? By modern, i  refer to their treatment and views of the opposite sex. I have had the fortune to experience modern(or fairly modern at least) men. However i have also had the misfortune to meet the not-so-modern ones! I still can't believe such people exist! Those sexist, male, chauvinistic(i apologise if i spelt it wrong) pigs! I know circumstances are different in other parts of the world but where i live, this should not be the case at all. Women are now equal to men. No longer do we have to emulate men, just to survive in the male dominated working world. We can now embrace our feminity and at the same time, be equally as successful as the men!

         Anyway, the reason i started this little rant was well...long stary but the short is that my uncle, whom everyone is trying to get to marry my cuz( somethin about keeping the line pure or something like that) sent her an email, which was sort of a proposal(in a screwed up way). And my cuz got angry at the e mail(understandably) and forwarded it to the aunts involved in the arrangement. This included my mum. I sneaked onto my mums' email(she left it on) and forwarded the message to myself, so i could read. Here is a little excerpt.

1. I believe that I mentioned you that I am a very moody person when I was chatting with you. I get very angry, once I even broke my sister’s teeth. My sister is the first person I care about and if this happened to her imaging what will happen to someone else. I even slap her if she doesn’t behave well. What would you do if I do this to you? I am not saying that I will, but sometimes I can’t control it.



2. I don’t like you calling me by the name, I am older than you and you don’t give respect for my age.


3. I don’t want you to have any kind of Social Network profiles, and I want them to be deleted. If you don’t want to then you can have one and you have to modified it and remove the entire picture and leave one or two.


4. Even I am moody person; I am a kind hearted person as well. I do respect women. But I will not give equal rights :) you will get what is yours.


5. I am sponsoring my sister for her studies. So I will be spending lots of money on her. When you come here the expense for us will double so you will not have the luxuries that you had at home. No car, no house and sometimes you will need to walk 1 – 2 Km every day. You will have to cook every day; we can go out once in a while. You will have to do house work, ironing etc. Having said that, I am not going to watch you while you are cleaning the house, I will help you as well. After all you are my wife (not yet :))


6. I want you to listen to what I say and do it as it is. You can always suggest better things, but arguing for nothing will always end up in problems. I had a bad first impression with you when I asked you for the photo. I asked you because every photo in Friendster looks different and I have already looked at them and you never sent me a new one. You simply asked my photo without giving yours.

7. My issue is that if I stop talking to a person I never talk to them again unless they talk to me. I wasn’t talking to my brother for 6 months, I wasn’t talking to my mother for 3 months. I had good friends that I don’t talk to them anymore, it is like more than 10 years. Unless they come to be I will never go to them. I am afraid that will happen between us, it will be your job to calm me if I get angry or stop talking to you even if I am refusing to talk to you. I am trying to change though, but so far no go.

8. I only said yes because of my dad. I didn’t really want to marry someone from our family, and then I thought for a while. Then I realized it would be better because in the future if your mother come and stay with us I will look her as my sister and vice versa. And you would do the same. Your mother asked your grandma about the dowry, and she asked my dad what we are expecting. I told my dad I do not want anyone’s money I will take care about my wife until I have last breath in my body. And I am only expecting a loving and caring person.


      So you see what i mean. Plus the dude lives in Australia. Shouldn't he have a more modern outlook on life considering where he lives? Anyway, draw your own conclusions from the above but the thing that got me the most mad was No. 4. What right does he have to say that? My cousin is her own women, he doesn't own her.

      Now, i have to be fair and accredit him for honesty. I'll give him that. And the very first part of the e mail was a wee bit sweet if a bit wierdly expressed. Obviously the guy needs to brush up on his love letter writing skills. But still, the way he expects her to do as he asks, and that thing about women not being equal....made me seriously pissed.

      Anyway, even though she got angry, she agreed to marry. Must be the family pressure. And the sugar daddy-like behaviour. He bought her an i-phone, he is going to pay for her to have her teeth done at a private hospital and he is going to pay for her to study for Masters. Isn't that like a sugar daddy or what? And it's not like her parents are poor or anything. But seriously, this decision is gonna last her the rest of her life. I wonder if this is what she seriously wants?

      And i think it's a bit sick that she is marrying her uncle. (Her maternal grandfather was his father's brother.) They are still blood related. In M'sia, it is banned except for Hindu's. Wierd! They wanted them to marry within the family to preserve the purity of the blood and all that crap cause he's a pure. She's just a half. No doubt i will have to undergo all this traumatising times in about 10 years time. Worse for me since i'm a pureblood. (He he, now i'm thinking Harry Potter). But i am confident of myself. I won't bend down to pressure.

       If i got an e mail like that, i would just tell the guy very(un) politely that he needs someone with a different outlook in life.

FYI: He's about 5 to 7 yrs older than her. She's 22 or 23.

My poor derriere

Ouch! My butt still feels the sting of the ground caressing it ever so lovingly.
            I went rollerblading yesterday with a friend. It was her first time and my experience with the rollerblades had been limited to a mere 40 minutes of flailing my hands around, desperately trying not to fall and, at the same time, not look like an idiot. Anyway, we donned our skates and after a few falls, she decided to stick to the railings. I decided to be a bit more adventurous and went to the centre. You know it really is funny how when guys see pretty girls doing something wrong or in trouble, they are so uick to help her. But when it is a not too pretty girl, the advice is rare and help, even more so. Such is our world, sigh. What a pity.
             At least i can comfort myself with the thought that i am extremely independant person andd therefore fully capable of doing things with little help. Anyway, although i fell down more often than she did i probably fared better than her due to all that excess butt fat. Heh heh.
              There was a part where i managed to convince her to hold on to my hand and we skated to the other side. Halfway through she lost control and i ended up giving her an impromptu piggyback of sorts. One that involved her near strangling me and her skates dragging along. We managed to reach the other side where she kind of collapsed on the ground and i clung desperately to the railings. We must have provoked uite a few laughs. I wish i could have seen how we looked. I was cracking up so much after that. I had loads of fun and i think she did too. I can't wait to try the rollerblades again!! But must remember to stick magazines or newspapers in my pants next time.